Growing up, I never realized how blessed I was to have the family I had. God gave me two wonderful, God fearing parents who loved the Lord unconditionally. I also had 3 siblings who, for the most part, got along with one another. Our home was often filled with laughter and conflict was a rare thing. The older I get, the more I realize that this is more an exception than the expectation.
It seems odd to see families at odds with one another. Father’s abdicated their responsibility to lead with Godly love. Mother’s trying to fill the void left by dad, but instead coming across as condescending, harsh, and critical. Children become casualties of the fray, and often end up bickering amongst one another. Unfortunately, I have seen many homes operating in this dysfunctional funk.
It is sad when Christian homes become battle grounds instead of pleasant places of holiness. God wants our homes to be a peaceful place where Christian love abounds. A place where husbands love like Christ loved the church. A place where wives determine the spirit of the home, and in sweet disposition encourage laughter and joy. A place where children feel loved, cherished, and learn discipline and respect. God wants our homes to be a place of Christian function, not dysfunction.
In Proverbs 15:17 Solomon declares, “Better is a dinner of herbs where love is, than a stalled ox and hatred therewith.”
I believe this verse speaks to the dangers of materialism, and how families get scarified on the altar of stuff too often. You maybe have fallen into the trap that “stuff” will produce happiness with you kids. I have learned that a new toy only gives joy so long, but time with daddy is remembered forever.
Each night at devotions we ask our kids to tell us one good thing about the day, or something they are thankful for. Without fail, each of our 3 older kids say something about an experience with Evie or me. Each week our kids count down the days to “daddy’s day off” on Friday, and they enjoy the fun we have on this day each week.
I may never have “riches” materially speaking, but I would much rather have love in our family than great riches. I would rather have a home that loves the Lord and a family filled with love for each other than a “stalled ox” any day.
Don’t trade your family for stuff. Don’t become so enamored with things that you miss out of the joy of having a Christ honoring home filled with love for one another. Put the Lord first in your home today.
Daily Scripture Reading
“The fear of the LORD is the instruction of wisdom; and before honour is humility.”